How many of you have been called dumb or stupid?
Labels or the Real Power of Words.
Dumb implies you cannot speak.
Stupid means you have no intelligence.
Do these words describe you accurately? Probably not. How many of you have ever been told you were bad?
Is that true?
Are you a bad person? Is what you did, according to anothers perception,really bad?
Or was it just simply, the perception of the ‘accuser’ and bad was the only word in their vocabulary at the moment to describe your action?. Suppose we change the word from dumb to silly, and from now on instead of being dumb or stupid, suppose it's alright to act silly? Silly is different than being dumb or stupid. Isn't it? And suppose instead of being 'bad', you were 'naughty'?
Imagine or remember a time when someone said you were bad for something you said or did - notice where you feel it in your body. Bad - stomach, head, shoulders, solar plexus, grit teeth, jaw, lower back. Think about being naughty - try to get that same feeling back.
Feel the difference in the power of the words. Next time your kid screws up, don’t say they're bad or stupid, that is not who they are! That’s only the way you feel about the way they have acted, in the moment. CATCH YOUR KIDS DOING SOMETHING GOOD...
Changing the word,
changes the thought which
Changes the feeling and
changes the outcome.Be careful with your words. Your subconscious may take it literally, so if you think dumb and stupid, you will start to do dumb and stupid things. Give permission to let your kid come out and play. Every day let your kid come out and play for a while. TRYING = LYING Nothing happens when you just try. WIMP WORDS: I shoulda.. coulda.. oughta..woulda I CAN'T = I don't know how to or I don't want to. Which is it? When you speak - substitute the the word BUT w/ And Change If = WHEN • Mental Computer upgrade Why do software companies upgrade programs? Because the company made it better, right? Now, isn’t it odd that they don’t just send the part they made better, they send you the complete program all over again. The machine isn’t smart enought to take out just what it needs, it needs the entire sequence, and when it comes to something on the disc that it already has, it skips over it. When it comes to the spot where the new information is to fit, it will lay in new information between the old one. So, the moment you decide to change, you begin to create an upgrade to your old programming to achieve a new comfort zone, but this time you leave out the outdated piece you had in your comfort zone, then begin to create a new comfort zone based on new information.
In Communication: the response you get
is based on the meaning of the words you use.
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